HER is the better option for LGBTQ+ women and non-binary individuals seeking a dedicated community with video call features and community events. OkCupid is a solid choice for those seeking a broader dating pool with a question-based matching algorithm, but it lacks video calls and community features.
| Attribute | HER | OkCupid |
|---|---|---|
| LGBTQ+ Inclusivity | Designed explicitly for lesbian, queer, bisexual, non-binary, and transgender individuals. | Has a long history of LGBTQ+ inclusivity and was the first major dating app to expand gender and orientation options. They continue to optimize the app for all users. |
| Gender Identity Options | Woman, Non-Binary, Gender Fluid, Trans Woman, Trans Man, Intersex, Pangender, Polygender, BiGender, Agender, Genderqueer, Questioning, Androgyne, Neutrois, Gender Non-Conforming, and Two-Spirit. | OkCupid offers over 22 gender options, including agender, genderfluid, non-binary, transgender, and more. |
| Sexuality Options | Lesbian, Bisexual, Queer, Bicurious, Gay, Pansexual, Fluid, Flexisexual, Homoflexible, Heteroflexible, Androsexual, Skoliosexual, Questioning, Straight, Asexual, Demisexual, and Polysexual. | The app provides more than 12 options for sexual orientation, such as asexual, queer, pansexual, demisexual, and heteroflexible. |
| Profile Customization | Add pronouns, pride pins, gender identities, star sign, height, alcohol and smoking preferences, political views, diet, religion, child preferences, and interests. | OkCupid allows users to select multiple descriptors for their gender and sexual orientation. Users can also highlight their pronouns. |
| Matching Algorithm Accuracy | Considers preferences, interests, and past behavior to suggest compatible matches. | OkCupid's algorithm uses 'match percentages' based on how users answer questions and what they want in a partner. It weighs questions by importance. |
| Communication Features | Text, photos, GIFs, and video calls in chats. | OkCupid allows users to send messages to matches. However, it does not have a video chat option. |
| Safety and Privacy Features | Verification badges, privacy settings, photo verification, profile checks, blocking and reporting. | OkCupid has privacy settings that allow users to control who sees them. You can block users to prevent them from seeing your profile or messaging you. |
| User Base Size and Activity | Over 13 million users in over 125 countries, over 300 million matches made. | OkCupid has over 50 million registered users worldwide. There are approximately 10 million monthly active users and around 1 million daily logins. |
| Subscription Cost and Features | Free version available; Premium unlocks ad-free experience, advanced filters, incognito mode, and the ability to see who has liked you. Premium subscription prices start at $14.99 USD/month. | OkCupid offers free, Basic, and Premium membership levels. Subscriptions unlock features like unlimited likes, the ability to see who likes you, and more advanced search filters. The Basic plan costs $44.99 for one month, $23.33 for three months, and $14.99 for six months. The Premium plan costs $54.99 for one month, $28.33 for three months, and $22.49 for six months. |
| Location-Based Matching | Uses location services; premium members can change location. | OkCupid matches users based on location, but the distance settings are not hard filters, so you may see people slightly outside your preferred range. |
| Filtering Options | Free users: age and distance. Premium: gender identity, sexual identity, relationship status, last online. | You can filter potential matches by age, gender, location, and orientation. Paid subscriptions offer 'Dealbreaker' filters. |
| Community Features | Events and groups focused on various interests, community rooms, virtual events, and speed dating. | The app does not appear to host community events or groups to facilitate real-world connections. |